Have You Ever Miscommunicated With Someone?
I sure have! I used to wonder how come we were all on the same conference call and 5 people heard totally different things on the same call! I was baffled. I really thought how come they didn’t hear what the speaker said? Duh! I had no clue!
Have You Heard Of The Four Quadrant Personality Traits?
Thank goodness I persevered in my home based network marketing business because it was through our personal growth program, where I learned about the Four Quadrant Personality traits. I actually learned it first in the corporate world, however, I didn’t understand it at the time. In my own home based business, I had no choice but to learn and apply what I had learned.
Do You Know Why You Do What You Do?
Basically, each of us have unique personality traits which drive us to do what we do. When we understand what drives ourselves, we can then also understand what drives others too. There are Four basic Personality traits and they fall into different quadrants. Most people have one dominant quadrant and one secondary quadrant, so you may feel like you are a combination of two quadrants. The key is to understand your “inner” wants and needs, which will cause you to discover why you do what you do.
Here’s a quick list of the 4 Quadrant Personalities:
1) DRIVER: Fast – Talks fast, walks fast, gets things done fast. Objective is to be in Control. Very Results Oriented. Knows what they want and how to get there. Hard working, high energy. Communicates quickly and to the point, can be tactless. Does not shy away from conflict. Not very emotional, not very sensitive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Results, Getting Things Done. To show a Driver your love, they want others to “Do What They Say” & Be Responsible. “Be good to your word”.
2) EXPRESSIVE: Fast – Talks fast, walks fast. Objective is to Have Fun. Great story-tellers, good communicators, great speakers. Loves to be the ‘center of attention”. Can get distracted if having fun. Can be competitive. Communication – tends to exaggerate, and are not concerned about facts and details. Sometimes would rather talk about things than do them. Very emotional, but not very sensitive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Time, Attention, and Recognition. To show an Expressive your love, say “I Love You”, and give them lots of hugs.
3) ANALYTICAL: Methodical – Talks slower, walks slower. Highly Detailed oriented. Objective is to Be Right. Must have all the Facts when making a decision. Tends to be highly critical, therefore can be pessimistic in nature. Communication – tends to be very detailed and methodical. Too concerned with facts and details. Not very emotional, but very perceptive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Responsibility and Trust. To show an Analytical your love, give them Responsibility and trust them to “Get It Right”.
4) AMIABLE: Talks slower, soft-spoken, walks slower. Very good listener. Can be quiet and shy. Blends in with any situation. Objective is to Be Liked. Looks for approval. Wants everyone to like them and get along with each other. Avoids conflict at all costs. This can cause miscommunication. Communication – tends to agree with all sides which leads to indecison. Can be wishy-washy and has difficult time making decisions. Very Emotional and Highly Sensitive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Physical Touch and Expressive Approval. To show an Amiable your love, give them Hugs, Kisses, Gifts, Cards, Keepsakes.
Here I explain the details of How To Be A Good Communicator with the 4 Quadrants:
Did you figure out which one is your dominant quadrant? By the way, you can change during your life. I have been in all 4 quadrants at different times of my life! If you’d like to take a fast test to access yourself, I created one on Facebook called the “Four Quadrant Personality Test” (click on test)
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below, which quadrant was your dominant one and were you surprised by the description?