I feel very compelled today to reveal something which is very private and personal, however, it is such a huge part of my journey that I can no longer keep it hidden. I have been getting many “intuitive” messages that are telling me to share it with my “ohana” (family) here. So, here goes…(disclaimer: everything stated here is only from my perspective which was probably very distorted. I am not making any claims, I am only speaking my truth as it is for me).
FATSO, FATSO
Every since I was 8 years old, I have been trying to lose weight. I was teased at school each day “fatso, fatso”. It hurt like crazy! 😥 When we would be in PE at school, we would all line up, and the captains of each team would verbally fight with each other because no one wanted me on their team. I was too slow, and too fat. So, I started to watch what I ate, and I tried to cut calories. I began an obsessive study of food, fat, and calories! I can tell you exactly how much fat and calories are in everything! I read all the books and the magazines. I bought every diet pill and miracle cure. I tried every grapefruit diet, protein, mushrooms, yogurt, rice cakes, bars, you name it, I tried it!! Then I started to exercise, because if you exercise you burn calories! When I was a senior in high school, I wanted to be thin for the pictures, so I started to starve myself. I lost so much weight that my period stopped and the doctor had to give me medication to start it again.
Then when I was a freshman in college, I ballooned to almost 200lbs. I had gained about 80 lbs in 6 months! 😯 During the 60’s & 70’s (yes I’m that old), no one understood anorexia and bulimia. It didn’t make sense to people that someone could be addicted to food, just like cocaine or alcohol. It wasn’t until 1983, when Karen Carpenter, one of the greatest musicians of The Carpenters, died of Anorexia, then the world and myself finally understood how serious food addiction was. As soon as I heard her story, I knew That Was Me! 😥
OBSESSED ABOUT FOOD – MY SECRET
By this time, Glen & I were already set to get married, and even after that, we both worked so much that even he didn’t realize the extent of my addiction. I was “in the closet”. For years, I obsessed about food, and damaged my health by extreme diets, exercise and taking almost any kind of “miracle drug” to lose weight. So why am I telling you all of this? Because I know that by me being truthful about my challenges with food, I may help even one person because they will know that “I Understand”. I understand what it’s like to think about food every second of everyday, to always look forward to the next meal, planning calorie by calorie. To starve yourself so long that one day you just can’t control it anymore, and you binge eat by yourself because you know something’s wrong as you eat massive servings of food without any control. Then you wake up the next morning and your stomach muscles ache (like you did 100 sit-ups the night before), and all you did was binge eat and stretch your stomach muscles so much that they hurt to breathe. Now for those of you who have never had this problem, I could say more, however, I think you get the idea that this is very warped thinking as the physical body is so “out of wack”, that your mind is delusional. (more…)
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