Have You Ever Miscommunicated With Someone?
I sure have! I used to wonder how come we were all on the same conference call and 5 people heard totally different things on the same call! I was baffled. 😯 I really thought how come they didn’t hear what the speaker said? Duh! I had no clue! 🙄
Have You Heard Of The Four Quadrant Personality Traits?
Thank goodness I persevered in my home based network marketing business because it was through our personal growth program, where I learned about the Four Quadrant Personality traits. I actually learned it first in the corporate world, however, I didn’t understand it at the time. In my own home based business, I had no choice but to learn and apply what I had learned.
Do You Know Why You Do What You Do?
Basically, each of us have unique personality traits which drive us to do what we do. When we understand what drives ourselves, we can then also understand what drives others too. There are Four basic Personality traits and they fall into different quadrants. Most people have one dominant quadrant and one secondary quadrant, so you may feel like you are a combination of two quadrants. The key is to understand your “inner” wants and needs, which will cause you to discover why you do what you do.
Here’s a quick list of the 4 Quadrant Personalities:
1) DRIVER: Fast – Talks fast, walks fast, gets things done fast. Objective is to be in Control. Very Results Oriented. Knows what they want and how to get there. Hard working, high energy. Communicates quickly and to the point, can be tactless. Does not shy away from conflict. Not very emotional, not very sensitive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Results, Getting Things Done. To show a Driver your love, they want others to “Do What They Say” & Be Responsible. “Be good to your word”.
2) EXPRESSIVE: Fast – Talks fast, walks fast. Objective is to Have Fun. Great story-tellers, good communicators, great speakers. Loves to be the ‘center of attention”. Can get distracted if having fun. Can be competitive. Communication – tends to exaggerate, and are not concerned about facts and details. Sometimes would rather talk about things than do them. Very emotional, but not very sensitive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Time, Attention, and Recognition. To show an Expressive your love, say “I Love You”, and give them lots of hugs.
3) ANALYTICAL: Methodical – Talks slower, walks slower. Highly Detailed oriented. Objective is to Be Right. Must have all the Facts when making a decision. Tends to be highly critical, therefore can be pessimistic in nature. Communication – tends to be very detailed and methodical. Too concerned with facts and details. Not very emotional, but very perceptive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Responsibility and Trust. To show an Analytical your love, give them Responsibility and trust them to “Get It Right”.
4) AMIABLE: Talks slower, soft-spoken, walks slower. Very good listener. Can be quiet and shy. Blends in with any situation. Objective is to Be Liked. Looks for approval. Wants everyone to like them and get along with each other. Avoids conflict at all costs. This can cause miscommunication. Communication – tends to agree with all sides which leads to indecision. Can be wishy-washy and has difficult time making decisions. Very Emotional and Highly Sensitive.
LOVE Language – Gives and wants to Receive Love by Physical Touch and Expressive Approval. To show an Amiable your love, give them Hugs, Kisses, Gifts, Cards, Keepsakes.
Here I explain the details of How To Be A Good Communicator with the 4 Quadrants:
Did you figure out which one is your dominant quadrant? By the way, you can change during your life. I have been in all 4 quadrants at different times of my life! 😆
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below, which quadrant was your dominant one and were you surprised by the description?
December 6th, 2010 at 4:32 pm
Kellie,
Thank you so much for always being on the “cutting edge” of personal growth. As a result of your continuing to get better, I’ve gotten better along the way. With your sharing of these concepts, we’ve totally been able to evolve our communication. This is such an ideal way to connect today that if one truly understands the simplicity of getting everything we want, this is one sure way and tool to master!
Love you much,
Shannon
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December 12th, 2010 at 7:29 pm
Aloha Shannon,
I am so glad you are gaining insight with our blog posts. This one is very “big” and was very huge for me once I understood it. Thank you for your comments and for continuing your journey to get better each and every day. Much love 🙂
December 7th, 2010 at 3:47 pm
Hi Kelli,
Super interesting stuff here.
I’ve been all 4 at one point. As for now? I can’t peg myself; I’d say I’m a combination of certain qualities from each quadrant.
I tend to gravitate toward some #4 qualities but am not seeking approval. If anything I march to the beat of a different drum.
Thanks for sharing your insight and have a powerful day Kelli!
RB
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December 12th, 2010 at 7:31 pm
Mahalo (thank you) Ryan! I am so glad you are enjoying our posts. It’s great to have been in all 4 quadrants because then you can really have compassion for everyone. Congratulations on marching to the beat of your own drum. Thanks for your comments Ryan! Aloha 🙂
December 9th, 2010 at 10:04 am
Interesting quiz Kellie,
It shows me as Amiable, which is my fall-back personality, yet I can step into any of the 4 when needed. I used to look for approval, but that is not the dominant case now.
I’ve seen many of these tests and it’s fun to see the similarities and differences in each of them. Taking all of them together gives a much broader picture of every aspect of who you are.
Thanks for sharing this one. It’s good to remember these when working with others. identifying another person’s main personality makes working with them easier.
Val 🙂
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December 12th, 2010 at 7:35 pm
Aloha Val,
I used to be Amiable too when I worked at a job. I believe when we “step out” to become an Entrepreneur, it forces us to switch quadrants and we change and grow. I’ve been in all 4 myself, and recently with all this internet marketing stuff, I find my analytical side helping me get through a lot of it! Being able to switch quadrants can be very helpful when working with a lot of different people. Thank you for you comments and for visiting. 🙂
December 10th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
Hi Kellie,
In my mastermind group, we assign colors to these 4 Quadrant Personalities:
Red = DRIVER
Blue = EXPRESSIVE
Green = ANALYTICAL
Yellow = AMIABLE
And we train our members on how to listen for and communicate positively to people based on their color. I love your descriptions. They are Right On 🙂
In my latest video below, I talk a bit about and give a link to my Mentoring for Free mastermind group where we do free personality colors training.
Take Care,
David Paul
the Follow Your Bliss guy
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December 12th, 2010 at 7:38 pm
Aloha David,
Thank you for your comments. Yes, I studied Jerry Clark’s colors too back in the 90’s and there are many different ones. They are all the same really. I learned the ones above in the corporate world back in the early 90’s….I know.. like 20 years ago!!! Much aloha 🙂
December 11th, 2010 at 5:54 am
I learned this a few years back. It is fascinating and powerful once you find the awareness. There are several versions of this. I learned the platinum rule. Everybody knows the Golden Rule…”Treat others the way YOU want to be treated.” The platinum rule says “Treat others the way THEY want to be treated.”
I took a PSI seminar through work about 10 years ago. We divided the room by the quadrants. They ask you certain question so you can initially pick a quadrant and get together with the quadrant to discuss things like your favorite song that represents the group.
I started in the Yellows (amiable) It was a large group, and I shortly realized that I was in the wrong group. I didn’t agree on one thing the group was saying.
I then went over to the Blues…(expressive), I found the group to be fun and outgoing, and wished I was part of that group, but again, I had to switch groups. I then went over to the red group (drivers)…and finally I had to admit that I was more suited for the analytical group. It was the smallest group and I was bummed.
I didn’t really fit in there either…I found myself looking at all the other groups and looking at how much fun they were having. Our group was analyzing every other group…LOL.
Anyway, like you said no group is better, it’s just an awareness. Being analytical has served well in my job as a helicopter pilot, but I have changed a ton since then. I find myself in all the quadrants at times, but I’m more of a driver in my business life, and can be an expressive (only with people that know me really well)…I also find that In my relationship, I have shifted from driver in my past relationship to amiable in my current relationship. Maybe that’s because I’m now with a driver/expressive…
I could go on and on, but thanks for refreshing me on this and make me take stock of where I’m at today…
Can’t wait to meet you in person…
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December 12th, 2010 at 7:42 pm
Aloha Nick,
Yes, I learned the Platinum Rule too and it is all the same. I was just telling David above that I learned this one 20 years ago…you guys were probably just born…heehee 🙂
PSI are great seminars too! I am glad you experienced a lot of personal growth. As an entrepreneur, I believe we will all journey through the 4 quadrants and then be able to switch into the appropriate one as we interact with people. I am so glad you stopped by today Nick. Yes, I look forward to meeting you one day too. Aloha 🙂
December 12th, 2010 at 7:40 am
Wow Kellie, thank you for sharing this. As I made my way through his post, I realized that I too have been all four of these in my life. Some of them actually merge together, depending on the situation. I love this post. I will bookmark it, and keep it as a reference. Thanks for sharing!
Bryan
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December 16th, 2010 at 12:50 am
Aloha Bryan,
It’s very nice to meet you. Thank you for visiting our blog today! I am glad you enjoyed it and got some value. Please come back again. Thank you for your comments. Aloha 🙂
December 15th, 2010 at 1:57 pm
Wonderfully enlightening post Kellie. I recognized the problem I’ve been having in communicating (or rather NOT communicating) w/my son, on a whole new level of awareness.
I am an ‘Expressive’ and he’s a ‘Driver’ (truth is I see a bit of me in all of the quads). For example recognition says ‘I love you for me and I’m very sensitive. My son has never sent me a card in his life. AND He thinks I don’t love him because he sees me as having been irresponsibile as a mother, because I left him with his dad when we divorced.
Such timely information for me Kellie, as my son has just turned 33 and the need to do something different in our relationship is more than obvious.
Thank you so much for sharing your insight and providing this valuable info as well.
December 16th, 2010 at 12:52 am
Aloha Alison,
I am so happy our article helped you today! Oh, it brings so much joy to hear of your “aha” moment with your son. I am looking forward to connecting with you soon. Thank you for your comments. Much love & aloha 🙂
December 17th, 2010 at 12:06 pm
Aloha Kellie!
Wow great stuff once again, happy to say that I was mistaken when I first did my analysis I guess you could say. Cause I found my self in the expressive category rather then the driver, in which I originally thought I was. I’m happy because now I know where I am and I know I do want to be a Driver. Comparing the two personalities I can see what key things I must improve or even implement into my life. Fa’afetai for the post <3. I learned a whole lot!
January 3rd, 2011 at 10:57 am
Thank You Kellie!
This is very, very helpful in dealing with people – especially when you’re not practised as a “people person”!
Happy new year to you and you’re family. I hope its a fantastic year for you all.
2011 – Our best year yet!
Dave.
(P.S. – no surprises on my quadrant, I’m sooo Analythical!)
July 31st, 2011 at 2:51 pm
Hi Kelli,
This is great! I am mostly Driver with Analytical. This is funny to learn because I wondered why my boyfriend, who is, I would say, 100% Amiable, would show love in certain ways. And I knew I was not showing him how much I loved him with the ways i was and wanted to know how (I went to bed last night thinking about this, in fact) and now know!
The Analytical side of course wants to know where can i go to learn more about this?
Thank you!